TINY BEAUTIFUL THINGS: When a gift is given say thank you.

Tiny Beautiful Things -- Season 1 -- Based on the best-selling collection by Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things follows Clare (Kathryn Hahn) (Courtesy of Hulu) I spent the formative years of my life living with my maternal grandmother and cousins.  Mme, like many other grannies, taught us that when a person gives us something, we

Courage Hangover: Risks and Regrets as a Lifestyle

I recently learned that the origin of courage is ‘cor’, which means heart. Therefore, to be courageous is to show your heart. What a dangerous thing to do in 2023. I often say I want a wild heart. I believe wild hearts do not mind risking it all; they know the beauty and the joy

Pretty, like perfection, hurts.

Clint: You know, I had to ask your assistant what your favourite flowers were? Your favourite wine. Your favourite music. Violet: So? Clint: So? You’re talking about getting married. I do not even know you. Violet: Of course you do! Clint: No. I know you’re beautiful. I know you’re smart, and you dress right, you

How to destroy a person

Step 1: Introduce trauma In August I got to read letters from two different people who were contemplating taking their lives; a man in his mid-30s and a little girl who just entered her teenage years. The letters were so detailed on why they did not want to live anymore, and why they felt so

Risk Your Heart: Unlocking Joy

Risk Your Heart, I said. A friend of mine replied ‘Not you’. I chuckled. He was right. It would seem like hypocrisy to keep advocating for people to risk their hearts when I constantly refuse to bae myself up. The biggest mistake people make is thinking that when I say this statement I talk about

Hello Friends, and Hope Again.

I feel like I need to start by greeting. Since the last time I posted here I have discovered so many things about this thing called life, and in the process, I hope I learned. I wholly comprehend that life is full of hellos and goodbyes. Lucifer and Dream before the battle for the helm

2020. What a year.

2020 is like the KFC story my mother always tells me. She says there was a man (we shall call him Bhuti) who bought a very good phone (boma P40 PRO). Since it was December he had to head home to the rurals. To prepare for the long distance trip, Bhuti bought himself some KFC

tokalives: Dreams, Faith and Conviction.

From when we were much younger, Wayne has always been the most disciplined and focused. He not only believed that he was destined to succeed but you could see him slowly living the dream the more he spoke of it. Such faith, belief and conviction is really rare to see in those who have not

tokalives: Purpose, Dreams and Thriving

I remember how captivated I was when reading Charles Dicken’s classic novel, Oliver Twist. I was only nine years old and partly literate but I could not put it down. The book’s illustrations gave me an idea of what it was about. I could tell that it was about an orphaned lad called Oliver, Oliver

tokalives: Lessons and lessons

Soon after moving to Orange Farm, I learned that for me to survive it I had to accept that I was in a place that wanted me in jail, or dead. At 16 years old I knew only four worlds; I knew that during the day from Monday to Friday I had to be at